We’ve just completed a second study looking at Younger Gay Men’s Perspectives on Monogamy, Non-Monogamy and Marriage.

You can download this new study, our previous study, or the follow-up article, by clicking on any of the links below.

Younger Gay Men’s Perspectives on Monogamy, Non-monogamy and Marriage
The quantitative part of this study consists of 242 single gay men, 290 monogamous couples and 127 non-monogamous couples. The qualitative segment contains verbatim comments from 161 monogamous couples, 16 non-monogamous couples, and 45 ‘monogamish’ couples. This comprehensive study shares statistical findings, verbatim comments and offers profiles of both monogamous and non-monogamous couples.
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Lessons from Long-Term Male Couples in Non-Monogamous Relationships
This is a qualitative study based on in-depth interviews with 86 long-term non-monogamous male couples. The study describes these couples’ approach to non-monogamy and what they’ve learned along the way (couples had to have been together at least 8 years). They share when/how they opened their relationship, as well as the rules, benefits, and challenges of being non-monogamous. Both partners were interviewed in each relationship and multiple couples are profiled.
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Creating Healthy Open Relationships
This is a follow-up article to the original study on non-monogamy, offering suggestions on: Managing Jealousy; Addressing Conflict; and Building Trust.
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If you would like a hard copy of both studies and the follow-up article (as a bound compendium), you can order:

Choices: Perspectives of Gay Men on Monogamy, Non-monogamy and Marriage
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PLEASE NOTE: We recognize that by posting this study and maintaining this site we run the very real risk that the ‘Religious Right’ can use this information to further their efforts to fuel fear and deny LGBT’s the right to marry. And on a personal level, given we’re both independent professionals, we realize by being so open, we’re putting our incomes and livelihoods at stake. On the other hand, we know the tyranny that comes with trying to present our relationships and our community in a singular light and the cost of hiding important aspects of ourselves as individuals. As responsible individuals and responsible community members, we think the importance of providing accurate, honest portrayals of who we are, the relationships we’ve created, and what couples have found to work is worthy of taking that risk.
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